For some reason, the idea of being an Empath has become really popular on social media and within the inter-webs as a whole. But one thing that’s really not acknowledged out there is the fact that being an Empath actually really sucks.
If you happen to be a true-blue Empath (perhaps you’ve known all along that you are one without having to be told by everyone on the internet... or a meme); then you definitely know what I’m talking about.
I really feel as though the entire path of being an Empath & discovering those emotionally-charged spiritual gifts has been glamorized. Honestly though, receiving a live-wire of thoughts & emotions on a constant stream directly into your heart & mind can be truly overwhelming. It’s also messy, not so much fun, and can really play with your mind in a mental-health kind of way.
However if you are unsure whether you are an Empath or are unclear about the difference between being super-sensitive-and-empathetic versus having the Paranormal / Psychic Empathic Ability - check out one of my recent “Spirit Unplugged” podcast episode below, covering this very subject.
Otherwise - if it’s all good & you feel totally confident that you’re an Empath because (to quote a popular hashtag) “The Struggle is Real”... Here are some of the major reasons why being an Empath actually totally sucks. Most of the time.
You can be moody as f*ck
”Peopling” may be a word you use & it’s hard
You love this world we live in, but low-key hate it as well
You also low-key hate yourself & doubt you are awesome in any way
Some of your fav interactions are with souls that are not human
”Ooo Squirrel” is basically the constant state of your mind
Tea spilling just happens naturally for you & not in a good way
You attract egos bigger than the known Universe
A true Empath will find that their personality, mood, and behaviour can change at the drop of a hat. Who needs a circa-70’s mood ring when you are a living, breathing one?!
When you are sensitive & receiving the emotions of others you may actually notice that your mood also changes, and oftentimes without your control. It may even be something that you become aware of after the fact
Of course any prolonged periods of moodiness may in fact be a sign of deeper mental issue or trauma - so it's always best to seek out appropriate medical care & intervention.
You are so used to being an Empath that you’ve created new verbs to describe the ordeals you face when engaging with others socially.
Some Empaths may actually find themselves to have “good days” when you are sparkling with all of the wit in the world, and the entire room around you is just picking up whatever you’re putting down.
But most of the time - seeking out a quiet corner or room to yourself is awfully appealing! Or better yet... avoiding all social gatherings like the plague.
I’m not sure that everyone would describe you as a “bleeding heart”, but you may feel like your heart bleeds a lot of the time. Likely when you encounter the woes of our world or witness any level of human suffering.
For you, it can be hard to actually see the bright side of life in general. Part of you may know intellectually that love fills this world and there are many good people in it... But generally it’s hard for you not to focus on the scourges and injustices of our society along with how blind we can all be sometimes.
When needed, you may be able to play pretend at being confident. If anyone can pull off self-assurance under times of pressure (or having to prove yourself) it’s you!
Behind closed doors though, you may in fact be the most doubtful person in the world. There may even be people in your life that make you feel small or unimportant.
Despite being the first person to spout how important self-love is, you could actually feel like the biggest fraud since Enron... I think I’m showing my age with that particular reference.
Hard-core Empaths can’t stand being around people - and it’s to the extent that they’d rather chill with animals than other humans.
And to top that off, if you could qualify for the “Animal Rescuer” edition of “Hoarders” on television (based on how many rescued animals you take into your home & care)... then you may have a problem.
Although your furry-friends may give you the unwavering compassion & unconditional love that you crave to “feel more normal”- even you’re aware that some effort may be needed to better groom your more human relationships.
When an Empath is constantly bombarded with intense feels that are not theirs, they can find it to be super-comforting losing themselves in the details. That means diving in, head first, into every possible project, hobby, interest, or distraction under the sun.
Being busy & staying busy is basically your morning smoothie. The very idea of sitting still with nothing to do, or “just being, even meditating in silence, could be enough to trigger major anxiety.
Sometimes you really wish you had a better verbal filter instead of always spouting off whatever you may be feeling or picking up from those around you.
Babe, loose lips sink ships & you most definitely do not know how to keep a secret from what you feel others may be going through. At times you are the best one to go to for advice - but at others (especially when you’re frustrated with the people in your life that keep coming back or more) your advice comes for free and maybe with just a wee little bit of bite behind that bark.
Why is it that some of the people you find in your most inner-circle may be the most toxic ones for you?!
That may be because certain types of super-toxic or even narcissistic people are attracted to the energetic all-you-can-eat-buffet that Empaths offer to the world. You may only wish that you had more relationships that offered equal give & take, but find yourself constantly on the short end of an all-take / no-give scenario.
Let’s not even get started on “Energy Vampires”... who are fairly spiritually-aware people. At least enough to recognize that your aura of empathy, compassion is so huge that it rivals the rings of Saturn.
So what can you do to handle the super-sucky existence of just living & breathing as an Empath?
Well... I also published a second “Spirit Unplugged” podcast episode that covers *very* important things that you need to know...
Like the different types of Psychic / Spiritual Abilities that an Empath may possess, the truth about the dark side of being an Empath PLUS intuitive development advice specifically tailored for Empaths.
Check out the episode below to learn more & take back the much-needed control of the suckier aspects of being an Empath.